Okay, the most attractive thing to most men besides a small waist line and great breasts, ha ha just kidding. Well not kidding but anyways, is going to be when she has passion for herself. How many times have you been in a relationship (or dating) and probably a little bit after you've had sex, you realize you want to sacrifice more of your own time for him? That's when you go wrong!!!!

We know that as guys, we will be incredibly nice and work very very very hard to start a sexual relationship but after that, if you change and stop being the girl we first met, we change our attitudes. Examples: (stop going out, do anything for us, not that party girl anymore) As soon as I know I have total control, I start to lose interest.

This could be a good analogy or you might think its dumb but here we go: Guys love video games right? You'll see us sit in front of the TV forever trying to beat that game, but as soon as we win, we're over it. So women, don't be that game!!! Don't have our complete interest and then let us win like that. Keep us working, keep things interesting, more or less keep yourself interesting. Don't stop your girl’s nights out. Keep working out at that class you love to go too. Stop sacrificing all your passions to be a part of ours. That's why we were attracted to you in the first place because what you were about.

Now I’m not telling you to play hard to get. It's not about the sex, if you think it's about the sex, you are so not with me. It’s about the little things you'll start to do after we know we have you. It's like this, every time I turn around, you are like that puppy dog that will follow my lead. Have you been to a club and talked to a guy that you knew was into you and he just followed you around like a puppy? Tried to buy you drinks? Agreed with everything you said? That's what girls do after we get control, you turn into our puppy.

Compromise is the key. Stick to your life and let him stick to his life. Then learn to let him into your life and his into yours. If one person gives up their life for the others, then they lose their power and become less attractive.

This might be off topic but there was this girl I was dating overseas that I really seemed to like. She always made time for her friends and had her passion for school. She would create time for me when she had it but she kept her priorities over me. I wanted to try so hard to put myself as priority number 1, but then I realized. That's why I like her so much because she has passion for herself. WOW! This girl knows what’s up. And to this day, I still think about her and always think how I really want to meet more of hers, which are hard to come by. She now finished school and with that passion gone she has picked up a boyfriend. Sounds good huh? He yells at her and breaks her insecurities down and they always fight. She says, “I can't see myself without him." Guess what, she's gone downhill. They will either break up or will have a very bumpy relationship where eventually he'll cheat and she'll be that puppy. It’s kind of depressing because she is a great girl.

Learn to keep your power! Focus on number 1! Work every day to improve yourself! The men will follow and eventually you will find this compromising relationship that will be full of fun.

If finding the right man was easy, it would take all the fun away.