I love that women are socially way smarter than men but they can't figure out "why won’t he approach me?" When I say he, I mean the guy that you want to come talk to you. You see him at the Starbucks, your favorite bar, or at school all the time but you can't get him to come talk to you. Why is that? Are you sending off bad signals? Just walking by him is definitely not going to do the trick. Here are some things to think about.

1. A lot of the nice guys will not approach you without a reason ex.( you drop something  for them to pick up or they have some kind of "just so happens" question for you). These are the guys that you want to approach you.

The guys that will approach you are like me, and don't care if you turn us down because we probably will already be dating a couple of girls and really care less if you give me your number or not.

2. Nice guys meet most of their women through friends and don't think as much about approaching because it’s too scary.

3. You probably don't send off friendly inviting signals. You need to learn to be a lot more inviting. Have good opening body language.

4. You are always surrounded by friends. - There is nothing more intimidating to a nice guy then getting shut down by a girl in front of a crowd. Think about it, what is feared most? Public speeches! You think he's going to work up enough balls to come say hi to you around your loud friends who will probably make him feel akward and scare him off.

5. It's 2008 and women are all about equality, Why can't you approach him? HUH? Did you say approach a guy? Yeah why not? I know you don't have balls but you can carry a living person in your stomach for 9 months, why can't you walk up to a guy and say hi?

So how do you become more inviting? Well you can try putting yourself in an area where you are by yourself for a couple of minutes that is conveniently close to him. You can also try and make eye contact with him and smile. I know that sounds gay, but whenever a girl that I’m attracted to does that, I know she wants to talk to me. Try and not sit in the corner all closed off by yourself at the coffee shop. Sit a bit closer to an area where if he were to sit by you, it would not look weird.

OK, so how to approach a guy? very very very very easy. First off, guys aren't like women. Women have been approached by men since they were 16/17 ish and know what a pick up is like. So women have a mechanism that shuts guys out without even hearing them. You know the feeling you get when a bum approaches you and you look away and say "no" without even hearing what he has to say. Same thing. It's autopilot. You do that to guys in bars all the time. 

Guys don't have this autopilot because we very rarely get approached by women. So if a woman walked up to a guy and said something like, “Hey, you seem like a friendly person I'd like to get to know. Hi, I’m (name)." He would be shocked at first and then say his name and probably talk with you. Maybe lead the conversation after he states his name with what you were doing that day or how your day has been. Asking questions from the beginning is kind of boring and puts the pressure on him. Go into a story like " yeah I came here with my friend (name) and she is at the bar getting shots. She always has to buy us shots before we start dancing. I really can't believe I came out today because I worked all day" Guess what he'll probably say if he is interested in you? “Where do you work?” BAM!!! You're in!!

It is so easy for women to approach men!

Remember the really nice guys that will treat you right and probably won't cheat on you, are the guys that are very intimidated by approaching women. So make it easier for them and maybe he'll say hi, or maybe you'll work up the courage to say hi first.